Barack Obama Reflects on Marriage Challenges with Michelle: ‘Being Out of the White House Definitely Helps’
During an interview with Nate Burleson on CBS Mornings, the former president was questioned about Michelle Obama’s previous remarks where she candidly expressed moments in their marriage when she “couldn’t stand” her husband.
Barack Obama candidly discussed the ups and downs of his marriage with Michelle Obama, acknowledging the challenges they faced during their time in the White House. In an interview with CBS Mornings’ Nate Burleson, the former president shared that “it sure helps to be out of the White House” when it comes to working on strengthening their relationship.
Burleson referred to an interview Michelle Obama gave the previous year, where she openly spoke about moments in their marriage when she “couldn’t stand” her husband. Michelle had expressed that there were ten years in particular when their children were young and they were focused on building their careers, where she felt a sense of imbalance. She emphasized that marriage is never a perfect 50/50 division and that there were times when one partner had to carry more of the load.
When asked about Michelle’s remarks, Barack Obama acknowledged the truth in her words and reflected on their journey together. He emphasized the importance of being out of the White House and having more time to dedicate to their relationship, implying that it has been beneficial for their marriage.
Continuing the conversation, Barack Obama delved deeper into the challenges they faced during their time in the White House. He acknowledged the immense pressure and tension Michelle experienced as a mother, knowing that their daughters were growing up in an abnormal and highly scrutinized environment. Despite his active involvement as a father, Barack admitted that he didn’t fully grasp the extent of the stress Michelle endured.
As their daughters have grown and thrived, Barack shared that Michelle has become more forgiving of his flaws. Reflecting on their journey, he revealed that she has reassured him, acknowledging his efforts as a father. If he passed the test of being a good dad, Michelle is willing to forgive him for his other shortcomings.
The Obamas, who met in 1989 and married in 1992, have worked through the challenging periods in their relationship. They will soon celebrate their 31st anniversary in October.
In a 2018 interview with PEOPLE, Michelle expressed the importance of carving out time for just the two of them, reminiscent of their early days together when it was just “us and our dreams,” away from the spotlight and responsibilities.
While their post-White House life has allowed their relationship to flourish, Michelle has also been open about the differences between herself and Barack. During an episode of her podcast, Michelle Obama: The Light, she shared with Oprah Winfrey that their relationship has thrived despite their contrasting personalities. While Barack tends to approach things rationally, Michelle describes herself as more “hot-headed.”
Michelle Obama expressed her belief that a marriage should always be a work in progress during her conversation with Oprah Winfrey. She emphasized the importance of honesty regarding the effort required to build a life together with a partner. According to Michelle, this perspective shouldn’t be controversial, as it acknowledges the ongoing work and dedication necessary for a successful relationship.
She also shared her candid thoughts on how she deals with anger, highlighting her preference for space and time to cool down rather than engaging in rational discussions. Michelle humorously mentioned that presenting three bullet points or sense during those moments would not be well-received.
Michelle’s remarks underscore her commitment to open dialogue about the realities of maintaining a strong and evolving partnership, emphasizing that acknowledging the work involved in a marriage is crucial.
